do you feel beautiful?
Written by Claire McCann
How do you see yourself? Your most deeply honest answer...
Do you have a list of "improvements" that you need to truly FEEL beautiful? Me too....
How do you hope YOUR daughter will view herself? Godly! Beautiful! Enough! Confident! Courageous! Kind! Generous! Etc....
If I could sit across the table from you and hear those answers, would you believe me if I told you that your beautiful? Would you see what I and many others see in you? Would you most importantly believe what God says about you? Would you be vulnerable enough to admit that you want to see yourself as ENOUGH?
I know all too well how hard it is to believe this about yourself because most days I continue adding to my "improvements" list. I know we may feel good about ourselves every once and a while but there usually comes some other girl, advertisement or just our own insecurity, then we let comparison get the best of us. We see how they seem to always have flawless hair, skin, perfectly toned shape and we subconsciously let go of that confidence we were walking in. Instead of ranking yourself against every woman around you, could you choose to see the beauty others see in you? I know all this seems wrong. Like we would then be prideful and conceited women but that's not what I'm talking about.
Oftentimes we want to be beautiful through the world's lenses so we set off to perfect our appearance as if that is what will make us feel complete. Having a perfectly shaped body with beautiful hair and style is not enough. Lord knows it's what culture presses on us and bombards us with constantly but that cannot satisfy this deep desire in us. Beauty is the WHOLE PERSON seeing, accepting and loving themselves as they are, as God made them.... without comparison.
It feels impossible right???
But what will happen to our daughters if WE won't embrace the fight to believe we are beautiful?
What will YOUR daughter grow up to believe about herself???
Do you realize she will see past those encouraging comments you give her and see the way you are disgusted by yourself and instead believe that as truth about herself? Your daughter will hear you say you like her outfit and then see you rummage through the entire closet trying to not feel ugly. Or on a different scale she will see your desperate need for any male attention to feel valuable and believe that is where her value comes from.
We cannot believe our daughters will just take to heart and believe the WORDS we say and discount our ACTIONS about ourselves.
It's a scary place to realize our deep insecurities will affect our children. And if you feel too weak to fight those insecurities know that your not alone. The Lord will fight those insecurities on your behalf as you press deeply into Him to find your confidence.
Jesus sees you as beautiful and enough..... just as you see your daughter that way. When you feel those lies of insecurity infiltrating your mind, run to the Lord! Ask Him to help you see yourself as He sees you.
LOOK at your daughter and LEAD her down the path of confidence as you walk it for yourself. SHOW her, by believing it for yourself, that she is beautiful just how God made her.