The Myth of Supermom
Written by Claire McCann
All mom's like to be perceived as "having it together" and maybe even envied by others because of her superhuman mothering qualities. Culture today sets the bar of motherhood high in all the wrong ways. They say a mom should keep their home like HGTV, raise obedient kids, grow their food, work out meticulously, have the perfect body, achieve the corprate career, make a larger salary, stay in tune with cultures fashion trends and engage each child in multiple extra activities. All of this and more done to perfection. This "image" of perfection is put off by women to exemplify their strength. To achieve the goal of standing on top of the hierarchical pyramid looking down on the other moms who don't compare.
The motive behind our drive for success is what's most important. Do we just want to be perceived as the "ideal mom?" Do we want others to be jealous of all that we can handle? Do we want others to envy us for our strength? Is it even OUR strength that is doing all this???
As a momma, it is so hard to not base our success or failure on the day to day tasks. We often feel either encouraged or discouraged by the amount of things we accomplished that day (or lack there of). When our identity is too closely tied to motherhood we can be a bit unstable in our high and low moments. Feeling like such an awesome mom when we correct with patience, maintain a polished home and do it all with joy. But like an absolute failure when we have a bad day and our only accomplishment is brushing our teeth. Fighting to find our identity in Christ is of utmost importance if we are to do this mothering thing well.
God graciously reminded me how He meets me in hard days....but that I need him deeply in the great days too!
NONE of us have it so together that were not in need of the Lord.
God does not allow us to walk through hard things so we can show how strong we are but so He may display His strength through us. He is the one who never fails. He is the strength in our weakness.
Make no mistake, HE IS ALSO THE STRENGTH BEHIND OUR STRENGTH!
He is my greatest need on those days I feel I've failed as a parent and my house and world have fallen apart. He is also my greatest need on those days I am self righteous and feel like I can accomplish things in my own strength. Oftentimes it's our strength that keeps us from Jesus more than our weakness!
For the believer, His gracious view of us doesn't change in our horrible days or in our amazing ones. He cherishes, loves and defines us the same in both days alike. May we walk daily being defined by Him... not our own strength. He is the steady strength behind us...so may we not take credit for it.