Motherhood changes you.
Written by Claire McCann
Motherhood changes you.
It changes you with exhaustion, dark circles, mood swings, stretch marks, pajama days, baby weight, spit up shirts, lonely days, lack of "me" time and the crazy feeling like your playing "follow the leader" ALL day.
It changes you so that your natural instinct of putting yourself first, dies off. Once you see that baby you innately think of their needs above your own. So innocent and helpless without your nurturing touch.
We have all been there...
Moments of uncertainty. Fear. Unknown. Transition. Depression. Joy. Sadness. Frustration. Etc....
We can so easily overlook the beauty of the simple moments in our day to day lives.
The smell of my baby in the early morning hours. The loudness of their laughter as I'm trying to read. Their sweet curiousity as they learn of the wonders of God's creation. The LOUD thumping of so many little feet. The 1,000 questions within a day....
There are so many levels of acceptace that come along with doing motherhood well. We can go through the motions of just "making it through" each season or we can fight to be truly joyful in the midst of it. There is one challenge in particular that every mother new or old must face.
When in the pregnancy and nursing phase its easy to see where the grass is greener (and the abs are flatter) in those who are out of that phase. When the newborn sleep deprivation hits it seems all of life would work better if you could just nap like the mom whose kids are in school can. Then the toddler phase where they destroy EVERYTHING can leave you feeling like you've accomplished NOTHING while working constantly to pick up. Same goes for school age children and the drama, money and patience that entails. Then let's not even get started on teenage years.....
We can find the flaws and frustrations in our motherhood season anywhere we look but we can also find the joy if we choose to focus on it. You can see the now as difficult and reality as exhausting but still consciously fight to love it in the midst of it.
Not wishing it away...
Because one day it will be just a memory....
This is the hard work of disciplining our minds, moment by moment, that contement is found in Christ alone. We can choose to dwell on things that are lovely about this season. Philippians 4:8 says it beautifully.
“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
Philippians 4:8 NLT
Momma's we cannot do this well on our own. We need Jesus and godly girls who can remind us when those dark days of comparison and wishing for a different season come.
Resentment is not the answer to the loss of ourselves, our sleep, our dreams, our productivity, our accomplishments, our time, our figure, our hobbies, our friends, our lives....
As we lay our lives down joyfully for our children, they will see that they are a delight and not a burden. They will see how Jesus sees them through our imperfect example.
What a privilege to display Gods sacrificing love day in and day out!
In the difficult days and the beautiful ones. His faithfulness to be our strength will not falter. When we give in and find ourselves wishing to be at a different place in life.... Remember Philippians 4 and think of the work God is doing through your obedience to lay yourself down for others.
As you pour yourself out daily... He is what fills you and enables you to continue pouring with joy.