The Picture Perfect Mom
Admit it or not.... There is a war beneath the facade of motherhood.
We all have been soldiers in it. Using the weapons made of words on those in disagreement.
The victory is appearing better than others... but the victims are our mommy friends and the children we all represent.
Truth is... We all believe deep in our soul that there is an IDEAL MOM.
"Wishing you were different and fantasizing about it always leads to insecurity. Insecurity and discontentment lead to jealousy. Jealousy leads to coveting and then gossip, slander and strife." -Matt Chandler
Momma, you must know God's ideal is different than your own.
Most importantly, your obedience to God WILL look different than other moms and their obedience to God.
God calls some moms to stay at home and do the Betty Crocker thing. Cooking all day everyday and using it to reach others for Jesus. It's ok if you don't.
God made some moms deeply creative so they Pinterest all day and make the most wonderful activities for their children. Your not "less than" because you don't.
God calls some moms to work full time and reach people for Him when they come in contact with others. Your not better or worse based on this.
God calls some moms to homeschool, organically farm and make their family's clothes. Your not a failure if you don't.
And some momma's do ALL of these plus 17 other things! And it still doesn't make her better or you worse of a mom....
We have this automatic response to criticize when we feel "less than" because someone does things different than us. Often because most of us have this nagging sense that...
we're just not enough.
So when we see other mom's who are (in our opinion) better in those respective areas,
It's confirming our fear that we are not the ideal....
But the truth is...
None of us are enough.... On our own.
We cannot be a good (hardworking, smart, cool, creative, attractive, Godly) enough mom to satisfy our longing. Or to save our kids. That's why we need a Savior.
So as we embrace this, we can celebrate another momma's strengths instead of being jealous of her.
We can encourage her instead of ripping her to shreds.
We can talk highly of others behind their back because we don't feel threatened by them.
We don't need to make them look bad so we look better...
We can, moment by moment, choose to love the person God made us into. So we don't allow insecurity to bring us down that destructive path leading to jealousy and strife.
We can walk in confidence in our mothering because we are seeking God and walking in His direction for us (obviously not in contradiction to the Bible).
All of this to say, by God's grace dig your heels (or boots) in and remind yourself of what God says of you! If we fight for this... We won't feel the need to compare or compete to be or do the best. We can do OUR BEST and with Christ...
that is ENOUGH!