FIGHTING TO KNOW JESUS IS RIDDLED WITH JOY AND DIFFICULTY, AS IS MOTHERHOOD. IF WE EMBRACE THIS, IT WILL BRING US TO A PLACE THAT ONLY GOD CAN BRING REST TO AND SUSTAIN US IN. THIS IS WHERE DEEP JOY IS FOUND.

When your child embarrasses you...

When your child embarrasses you...

If we can be honest... we have ALL been absolutely mortified by some of the decisions or actions our children have made at one point or another.

Whether it's in the grocery store and they see a candy and want to run the aisles...

Your son tries to pee on the splash pad...

When they have to be corrected at school...

They are ugly towards a friend...

Or they just are plain defiant towards authority.

I may or may not know these and MANY more from experience....

I also know the embarrassment we, as parents, feel...

And the tendency towards correcting, shaming or punishing them out of that embarrassment.

Just this morning, as I went to the gym with my 6 sidekicks (one permanently attached to my abdomen) I experienced this...

One particular child was corrected by the childcare for running and then proceeded to make a sassy comment to her which I had to be informed of by the desk clerk.

We all have differing scales of how our child has embarrassed us..

but this particular one made me want to whoop his tail...

(I am finally, after 9 years, making time for myself and going to the gym with the kids and this is what I get?!)

I can tell you my natural inclination (and I would bet yours too) is to sharply correct, shame or punish them without taking the time to delve into their soul and help them navigate what was going on in there...

It's so much easier to just give loads of consequences and punish them but...

If the gospel is to be displayed in parenting it will usually come to them in these moments most clearly.

When our child's heart is hard and we are angry or inconvenienced...

What a beautiful thing it is to tell our children "Jesus loves you and wants to help you with your sin if you run to Him." 

But to actually live that out (so hard) and embrace the wave of emotions that come with their poor choice and the embarrassment or frustration that creates in you...

To give them the grace to fail and blow it, even when it makes you look bad...

and help them crawl their way back to the Lord with all their sin in tow...

To not let our frustration get the best of us...

To see their soul is distant from Christ and restoring it to nearness as the highest goal.

That, my friend, is MUCH harder than just throwing out a few spankings, harsh words and disapproving looks.

Gospel work is always harder.

It's harder because it involves the heart, emotions and motivations...

Not just the actions.

It means we take the time to ask the tough questions like "Were you embarrassed or hurt before you said that comment in anger?"

Most of all... it means you have to be living the gospel yourself.

That you have to be on your own journey of seeking the Lord and failing and needing grace. 

That you have to be searching His word and letting it shape your life...

if you have any hope of that word shaping your child's life.

This is the beautiful struggle of partnering with our children in grace... that we do now and always will need His grace...

as equally as they do.

Displaying humility to our children so they know we don't "arrive" to a place where we don't desperately need grace ourselves. 

May we let God work in and shape us so that we may shape our children.

May we humble ourselves before our children showing them we need Jesus just as much as them...

“Pride first, then the crash, but humility is precursor to honor.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:12‬ ‭MSG‬‬

God is at work in the mess... 

if we take the time to invite Him in...

 we will see it.

In the waiting...

In the waiting...

Run. YOUR. Race.

Run. YOUR. Race.